Powerful Affirmations for Your Child

Even clunky affirmations can work magic.

A teacher in high school once told me in front of everyone, “Mary, at some point you’re going to drop the dumb blonde act and let people know how smart you are.”

It was kind of embarrassing, sure, but surprisingly I also felt deeply validated. She saw through my flirty facade and gave me permission to step into more of myself.

If language is so powerful that even clumsy, passive aggressive affirmations can land, how much more potent would your words to your children be if you had the tools and time to be thoughtful about them?

Think about it – what was something someone said to you that positively impacted your self-concept? Were their words a perfectly arranged sonnet in iambic pentameter – with no grammatical mistakes? Or did they express a simple heartfelt statement that showed you that you were deeply known and valuable?

Next week’s newsletter will talk more about how to level up our approach even beyond words, but today I want to give you a few helpful examples – feel free to adapt these to your own child.


An affirmation might sound like:

"You are musical! You love to make music."

"You are playful. You have a knack for bringing play to even mundane things like chores."

"You are a protector. You look out for the underdog and I see that when you play with your friends."

"You are a storyteller. Your gift for the dramatic means you tell a story in a way that is so fun to listen to."

"You are a comforter who lifts your friends up and your kindness brings light into darkness."


Hope these help! I’m rooting for you.

​Mary

P.S. Download the pdf of affirmation prompts here with 20 sample phrases to get your child hyped up this Valentine’s Day!

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