Learn to use your body
to ground yourself in the midst
of chaos, defiance, and
uncontrollable emotions.

Raising a human being can be triggering.

It’s hard to enjoy time with your child when you are dysregulated.

In the midst of conflict, have you ever…

  • Lost your cool and made a tough situation worse?

  • Felt guilty after shouting, yelling, or snapping at your child?

  • Let your emotions out by banging things around, stomping, or clenching your fists?

  • Gone numb and disconnected?

  • Found it hard to move or make decisions?

You’re not alone.

There’s nothing wrong with you.

I can help.

Self-regulation is a skill, and it takes practice.

We aren’t born knowing how to get back to calm. 

You can learn how to choose calm by practicing my step-by-step way of responding to triggers.

What if you could grow your body's ability to recover from stressful inputs — like your child's big emotions?

With practice, this is 100% possible for you.

“Such useful tools. I have found the Gentle Parenting space to feel kind of lonely when so few people acknowledge how effing hard it is to stay calm and be the Mother Theresa parent they model on IG. Mary feels much more real and like she acknowledges the messiness of it all.”

—Juliana B

Hi, I’m Mary Van Geffen,
and I’m a mom just like you.

Let’s be clear: calmly parenting my children did not come naturally to me! I had no idea what it looked like to stay grounded amid defiance and unexplainable explosive emotions. In the early years, there was a lot of yelling, disrespect, and anger…lots of it from me.

Then, when my Spicy One™ turned five, I started a life-changing spiritual journey to see the goodness of my child. I was determined to stay calm, kind and firm no matter what they were doing! This deep work into my own childhood wounding and non-violent communication techniques allowed me to make a calm, safe space for the exceptional young adults my children have become.

My great joy is to now serve families struggling like mine did by supporting them in their own healing journeys. I’ve helped thousands of moms across the globe to transform the relationship they have with their larger-than-life kids. I’d love to help you, too!

What if you…

  • Had a plan for when your anger bubbles up?

  • Didn’t feel guilty about your reactions to
    your child?

  • Learned to pause before you respond?

  • Had rehearsed scripts to use in moments of high emotion?

  • Enjoyed your child more?

  • Had more energy for other things in your life?

Learn how to stop the cycle and get calm.

Join us in…

In this guided course, and optional coaching sessions, you will…

  1. Shift your thinking to better prepare for conflict and triggers

  2. Rehearse physical practices to help regulate your nervous system 

  3. Design the exact steps you’ll take to become a peaceful presence for your child

“This is part of the parenting manual we all want in life!”

—Heather W.

Here’s what’s included:

  • On-Demand Class

    On-demand class access immediately upn purchase. Watch the one-hour Calm class now. You get lifetime access.

  • Worksheet

    A printable worksheet accompanies the teaching, for note-taking and personal reflection.

  • Unlimited Access

    The recording of the live hour-long class will be viewable as long as I run this business, so you have plenty of time to view and review the material.

You can feel kind, confident, and peaceful, even when your child is losing their ever-loving mind.

Imagine this...

  • Your child’s big emotions trigger your own big emotions, but you breathe through them and address your child with kindness.

  • It’s getting late, and everyone needs something RIGHT NOW, but you take a moment alone to regroup before responding to requests.

  • You said something snappy to your tired, whiny child, but then notice what is happening in your body and wait to speak again until you’ve cared for yourself first.

Calm is in reach.

Let’s find it together.

“I don't know a single person who wouldn't benefit from this class — parent or not, we can literally always be better at recognizing our bodies and our emotions.  Finding your calm is an interpersonal skill that everyone needs. And the price point is easily justifiable.”

—Stephanie

“My husband and I watched the Calm recording together. Now we have a shared language — we coach each other to “be the sloth” and do a silly movement when we feel like the other needs encouragement and a reminder. It makes us laugh and breaks the tension. Love your sense of humor and teaching style!”

—Mia

Frequently asked questions:

  • The on-demand recording will be available in your Teachable account upon purchase.

  • The class will be 60 - 75 minutes long.

  • This class is applicable for parents of kids of any age. Whether your children are infants or adults, it’s never too late to find your calm!

  • Yes, they are welcome to view the class with you!

  • Nope. While I personally identify as a deconstructing, radically affirming Christian, no religious affiliation is specifically associated with this class. I do believe parents need the benefits that come with opening up to a higher power, but how you define that is up to you.

  • Your purchase grants you access to all class materials for as long as I run this business of coaching moms on the Internet (aka, for the foreseeable future)!

  • Yes, ma’am! This, along with my Kind class, are so foundational that if you register for both, I’ll refund you $50 towards your MOSO™ tuition if you end up joining.

Have further questions? Send the team an email here.