Where to Start With Your Spicy One®
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Does my family have a Spicy One?
Curious how tricky your parenting assignment really is? Take this quiz to see if your child is a Spicy One—and get a peek at your own spirited side too!
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What skill do I need to build first?
Not sure where to start? Take the quiz to get the best next steps for parenting your Spicy One with calm and connection.
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How do I get help with my challenges?
Get personalized strategies for handling your child’s unique challenges with coaching, community and on-demand curriculum.
Explore Resources by Your Parenting Needs
Which one sounds like you?
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"When my child screams or meltdown, I completely lose it..."
🎯 ALA CARTE SOLUTIONS:
Parenting a Spicy One Book - Learn co-regulation techniques that help you become the calmest one in the room.
CALM Class ($49) - Master staying regulated when triggered by your child's words/actions
Good Enough Class ($24) - Address the "I'm failing every day" spiral and self-criticism
Repair Recipe PDF ($3.99) - Essential for cleaning up after you've lost it
🎯 ALL IN ONE SOLUTION:
Moms Of Spicy Ones ACADEMY ($47/month) - Coaching support when you're drowning plus free on-demand access to all the classes including Moms of Spicy Ones 8 week course.
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Getting dressed, homework, bedtime - everything's a fight.
🎯 ALA CARTE SOLUTIONS:
Parenting a Spicy One Book - Discover the “2×2×2 method” and other practical strategies for getting cooperation with less power struggles or over-negotiating.
FIRM Class ($49) - Learn boundaries that work with defiant kids without force
KIND Class ($49) - Language that invites cooperation instead of resistance
🎯 ALL IN ONE SOLUTION:
Moms Of Spicy Ones ACADEMY ($47/month) - Support when you're drowning plus included access to all the on-demand classes
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"They say cruel things, hit, and seem to genuinely hate each other sometimes..."
🎯 ALA CARTE SOLUTIONS:
Siblings School ($79) - Stop sibling violence and cruelty without becoming a 24/7 referee
FIRM Class ($49) - Hold safety boundaries around violence and cruel words
Repair Recipe PDF ($3.99) - Teach siblings how to repair after hurting each other
🎯 ALL IN ONE SOLUTION:
Moms Of Spicy Ones ACADEMY ($47/month) - Coaching support when you're drowning plus free on-demand access to all the classes including Moms of Spicy Ones 8 week course.
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This kid is great for teachers and even dad, but defiant and disrespectful with mom.
🎯 ALA CARTE SOLUTIONS:
KIND Class ($49) - Learn the "royal" approach that naturally commands respect
FIRM Class ($49) - Develop consistent boundary-setting that rebuilds your authority
Moms Of Spicy Ones Self Paced Course ($149) - The Deep work to become the parent your child needs
🎯 SUPPORTING SOLUTIONS:
Parenting a Spicy One Book - Chapter 8 helps you find your “Inner Royalty” and use your low, slow chest voice to project natural authority.
How to Say No ($49) - Practice saying no (to ADULTS) without guilt to rebuild your confidence
Spicy Ones Society Membership ($19/month) - Live coaching for rebuilding your relationship
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"This child goes from 0 to 100 in seconds... their big emotions take over our entire house."
🎯 ALA CARTE SOLUTIONS:
CALM Class ($49) - Learn to stay grounded when intensity hijacks your home
Moms Of Spicy Ones Self Paced Course ($149) - Transform your relationship with your child
KIND Class ($49) - Respond to explosiveness with connection rather than escalation
🎯 ALL IN ONE SOLUTION:
Moms Of Spicy Ones ACADEMY ($47/month) - Support when you're drowning plus included access to all the on-demand classes
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"I want to set boundaries but I'm terrified of dimming their sparkle with harsh discpline..."
🎯 ALA CARTE SOLUTIONS:
KIND Class ($49) - Learn gentle effectiveness that preserves your child's spirit
FIRM Class ($49) - Set loving limits that build up rather than break down
Good Enough Class ($24) - Release the fear of "getting it wrong" and damaging them
🎯 ALL IN ONE SOLUTION:
Moms Of Spicy Ones ACADEMY ($47/month) - Support when you're drowning plus included access to all the on-demand classes
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"I get the looks from other parents... Other parents make it look so easy... I'm the mom with the screaming child in Target..."
🎯 ALA CARTE SOLUTIONS:
Moms Of Spicy Ones Self Paced Course ($149) - Deep work to become unshakeable in your parenting confidence
How to Say No ($49) - Set boundaries with judgmental comments and unsolicited advice
Holiday Boundaries PDF ($2.99) - Scripts for handling family/school criticism
🎯 ALL IN ONE SOLUTION:
Moms Of Spicy Ones ACADEMY ($47/month) - Support when you're drowning plus included access to all the on-demand classes
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"They’re pulling away and I'm panicking... I'm worried they won't want a relationship with me as an adult..."
🎯 ALA CARTE SOLUTIONS:
Tweens & Teens Class ($99) - Navigate adolescent pulling away without damaging connection
Spicy Ones Society Membership ($19/month) - Live support from other parents in the teen trenches
🎯 ALL IN ONE SOLUTION:
Moms Of Spicy Ones ACADEMY ($47/month) - Support when you're drowning plus included access to all the on-demand classes
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"He thinks I'm too soft, I think he's too harsh... Our marriage is suffering..."
🎯 ALA CARTE SOLUTIONS:
Parenting a Spicy One Book - Chapter 21 addresses co-parent conflicts and gives you strategies for getting on the same page when your partner is triggered.
Moms Of Spicy Ones Self Paced Course ($149) - Get aligned on parenting approach and stop undermining each other
How to Say No ($49) - Set boundaries around parenting criticism from spouse
FIRM Class ($49) - Present united front while honoring both perspectives
Family Culture PDF ($7.99) - Create shared family values to guide decisions
🎯 ALL IN ONE SOLUTION:
Moms Of Spicy Ones ACADEMY ($47/month) - Support when you're drowning plus included access to all the on-demand classes
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"Will they be able to keep friends? Am I raising a future CEO or future felon?..."
🎯 ALA CARTE SOLUTIONS:
Parenting a Spicy One Book - See your child’s temperament as their superpower and learn how difficult children often become the most brilliant adults.
Moms Of Spicy Ones Self Paced Course ($149) - Transform your relationship with your child's intensity as a gift
Good Enough Class ($24) - Release catastrophic thinking and future fears
🎯 ALL IN ONE SOLUTION:
Moms Of Spicy Ones ACADEMY ($47/month) - Support when you're drowning plus included access to all the on-demand classes
“Your Spicy One is your invitation to grow your love for yourself and your child unconditionally.”
— Mary Van Geffen
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BOOK
A compassionate guide for raising a deep-feeling and wonderfully strong-willed kid written just for you.
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GROUP COACHING
Don't parent your Spicy One alone — ask your questions and be with other parents who get it in Spicy Ones Society.
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CLASSES
Master the foundational skills of parenting strong-willed children with techniques that work without wilting your orchid.
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NEWSLETTER
Weekly support and solidarity for overwhelmed parenting of sparkly, sensitive, strong-willed children.